SOMETHING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN'T WORKING
Relationship Therapy In New York, NY
Virtually throughout NYC and Florida
There's a specific relationship in your life that's taking up too much space in your mind. Maybe it's a partner you can't get through to. A parent who still knows how to get under your skin. A friendship that's starting to feel one-sided. A work dynamic that's draining you.
You've tried to figure it out on your own — talked to friends, gone back and forth in your head, maybe even tried to let it go. But it's still there. And it's affecting more than just that one relationship.
This is individual therapy which focused on how you navigate the people in your life — romantic partners, friends, family, and coworkers. All of it.
You don't need to sort through all of it before you reach out. That's what we do together.
DOES ANY OF THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
Relationship Therapy Can help If…
✦ You have a complicated relationship with someone and can't just walk away from it. A family member, a coworker, an old friend — you don't always like them, but you want to find a way to make it work.
✦ You replay conversations after the fact. You left a group conversation and walked away rethinking everything you said.
✦ You struggle to express your needs. The anxiety and fear about how this person might receive what your want to say is too much to bear. You avoid and dread interacting with them.
✦ You over-function - adjust, accommodate, and keep the peace. Often without realizing it. It feels easier than experiencing tension or conflict. But over time you lose track of your own preferences and what you actually need from the relationship.
✦ You keep trying to feel heard and seen. You bring something up, it turns into a fight, nothing gets resolved — and you're left feeling more alone than before. You don't know if the problem is you, them, or both — and you need someone outside of it to help you see clearly
RETHINK YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
This Is What Could Change
What if You Could Go From:
⟡ Feeling unsure how to communicate → Walking into a conversation with a plan and confidence
⟡ Second-guessing your reactions → Trusting your instincts in the moment
⟡ Avoiding conflict or shutting down → Staying present during uncomfortable conversations
⟡ Feeling responsible for the tension in the relationship → Holding boundaries without guilt
STEP 1:
AWARENESS
You bring the situation. The thing keeping you up. The conversation on repeat in your head. We slow it down. What's really going on? What's getting triggered in you? Why is this one hitting so hard?
STEP 2:
UNDERSTANDING
Most relationship issues aren't about the surface conflict. There's usually something deeper — an old wound, a fear, a pattern. We make sense of it. So you're not just reacting. You're understanding.
STEP 3:
CHANGE
You start showing up differently — You'll have language for what you need. You'll know where your boundaries are. You'll stay in hard conversations without shutting down. And you'll start feeling like yourself again.
When one relationship takes up all the space, it affects everything. Relationship therapy in NYC gives you the tools to manage it — and get back to you.
Why You Can’t Figure This One Out
You've probably already analyzed this from every angle. You know what's wrong. You might even know what you need to do. But knowing and doing are two very different things when it comes to relationships.
Relationship issues trigger old fears — rejection, conflict, being too much or not enough. When those fears kick in, you don't get the clear, rational version of yourself. You get the version that freezes. Or appeases. Or shuts down.
In relationship therapy, we look at your specific patterns in relationships. It gives you space to step outside it. See the relationship dynamics differently. Figure out what you actually want — not what you think you should do.
You’ll Learn To:
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✦ See what's really happening — not the fear-based version
✦ Understand your part without blaming yourself
✦Say what you need, even when it's uncomfortable
✦ Know what you're willing to accept — and where your line is
✦ Make decisions from a grounded place, without anxiety or guilt
ALISON MARKOWITZ, LCSW
MEET YOUR RELATIONSHIP THERAPIST IN New York, NY
Virtually in New York & Florida
Hi. I’m Alison
I work with people in the middle of something. A relationship that's gotten complicated. A dynamic wearing them down. A situation they can't stop thinking about.
They don't want vague advice. They want someone who can help them see clearly, figure out what they need, and move forward.
That's what I do. I'm direct and honest. I'll help you think through the situation — not just emotionally, but strategically. What do you want? What's realistic? What's the next move?
You've been sitting with this long enough.
Frequently Asked Questions.
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If you keep hitting the same wall — the same arguments, the same silence, the same feeling of walking on eggshells — that's worth paying attention to. You don't need a crisis. If something feels off and you can't shift it on your own, therapy can help.
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No. This work isn't just about romantic partners. It's about how you relate to people — friends, family, coworkers, and yourself. You can start whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship.
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Yes. We don't just talk about patterns — we work on changing them in real time. You'll start noticing what you do, understanding why, and responding differently.
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That's one of the most common things people bring in. We'll look at why certain conversations feel so loaded for you — and build your ability to say what you mean without shutting down or escalating.
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Usually, yes. The overthinking. The replaying. The fear of saying the wrong thing. That anxiety is connected to the same relational patterns we work on. As those shift, the anxiety tends to quiet down too.
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No. I work with individuals. But just because the other person isn't in the room doesn't mean we can't work on the relationship. We focus on your side of the dynamic — how you're showing up, what's getting triggered, and what you want to change. That alone can shift the entire relationship.
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You tell me what's going on. I listen, ask questions, and start helping you make sense of it. There's no homework. No awkward icebreakers. Just an honest conversation about what brought you in and what you want to feel different. Most people leave the first session feeling lighter just from finally saying it all out loud.
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It depends on what you're working through. Some people start noticing shifts within the first few weeks — catching themselves in a pattern, responding differently in a conversation. Deeper changes take longer. But this isn't open-ended for the sake of it. We work with intention, and you'll feel movement early on.
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This is one of the most common fears people bring in. Here's the truth: you can't control what someone else does. But you can change how you respond to them. And when you stop playing your usual role in the dynamic, the dynamic shifts — whether they change or not. Sometimes the relationship gets better. Sometimes you get clearer about what you're willing to accept. Either way, you're no longer stuck.
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Absolutely. Most people come in because of one relationship, but it rarely stays there. The patterns that show up with your partner also show up with your mom, your best friend, your boss. We work on whatever's most alive for you in any given session. It's all connected.
YOU’VE BEEN STRUGGLING WITH RELATIONSHIP LONG ENOUGH
You don’t need to have everything figured out. If something in your relationships feels off, that’s enough to begin.
We’ll figure it out together.